Wives Celebrating Advent

advent messages or wivesAre there encouraging messages within Scripture for wives celebrating advent? Can you plumb the depths of Bethlehem and discover gifts of blessing for your marriage?

In fact, there are several messages for wives within the miracle of Jesus’ arrival on Earth and I’ll be unpacking these treasures during December’s series of blogs. These blogs are written specifically for wives seeking the King of King’s best gifts this Christmas.

A Priesthood At Home

Hebrews 5 describes the ‘why’ behind Jesus advent or arrival on Earth as a baby. He was sent by God to be a high priest on our behalf.

The job of every high priest is reconciliation: approaching God on behalf of others and offering Him gifts and sacrifices to repair the damage caused by our sins against God and each other. High Priest’s should have compassion for those who are ignorant of the faith and those who fall out of the faith because he, himself, has wrestled with human weakness. And so the priest must offer sacrifices both for his sins and for the those of the people.

The office of high priest and the honor that goes along with it isn’t one that someone just takes. A high priest must be called by God.

You, my dear reader, are called to be priests in your home. In fact, I believe some of you have been sensing the nudge of the Holy Spirit to perform the role of priest without realizing that it was to the priesthood you’ve been called. Incidentally, the role of priest does not include preaching.l

Whenever you pray for your husband or share a cup of cold water with him in Jesus’ name, you’re a priest. You’re communicating the grace of God.

Lessons for Wives Celebrating Advent

When Jesus lived on earth, He offered up prayers and pleas, groans and tears to the One who could save Him from death. He was heard because He approached God with regard and deep respect.

  1. When you recognize that God alone has the answers you need, and when you enter His gates with thanksgiving, in spite of the difficulty you face, you’ve donned priestly robes.
  2. When you ask God to bless your husband rather than dress him down, you’ve just been promoted to the office of high priest.

Although He was a Son, Jesus, our high priest, learned obedience through the things He suffered. And once He was perfected through that suffering He became the way of eternal salvation for all those who hear and follow Him.

Did you catch that? Although He was a Son. If Jesus, the perfect Lamb of God was not spared suffering, His daughters won’t escape it either.

So don’t be surprised or feel you’ve been forgotten if you find yourself in deep struggle this Christmas.  Let the reason for Jesus’ Advent remind you that you’ve been called to a priestly duty: to offer gifts and sacrifices to God on your husband’s behalf. These are the gifts God treasures most.

What gift is fit to bring your King this Christmas? An affirmative response to the role of priest He’s calling you to.

What priestly sacrifices is the Holy Spirit prompting you to make on behalf of your husband?

When Biblical Marriage Strategies Fail to Produce

Ever been introduced to biblical marriage strategies that failed to produce satisfying results? Having your hopes dashed like that sucks the air right out of your lungs.

When you’re facing marriage challenges, you’re looking for ideas and strategies that lead to a place of re-connection with your spouse. So you strap on your hiking boots and begin the climb with anticipation of a favorable outcome.

Yet many times these strategies fail to produce the results you’d hoped for. After laboring upward for days, weeks, or months all you see is barren wilderness in all directions.


Why a Child-Focused Marriage is Dangerous

Do you have a child-focused marriage? On Sunday, I heard a message that challenges conventional wisdom and the marital safety of focusing too much on children.

If you’re short on time, fast forward to point #2 at 1:05:25. If not, I promise the whole message will be worth your time.

Unmet Expectations and What Wives Can Do About Them

unmet expectations

Have unmet expectations concerning your husband got you ‘stuck’? When things don’t turn out as you envisioned, it’s easy to get discouraged and lose your way.

Thankfully, God has given us strategies in His word that have the power to dislodge a marriage suffering from unmet expectations. I’ve uncovered 3 so far in this series.


Feel Stuck in Your Marriage?

feel stuck

If you’re in a place where you feel ‘stuck’ in your marriage, you’re not alone. In fact, almost every wife under the sun has felt stuck at one time or another.

Because so many women stay ‘stuck’, I’m sharing 4 strategies this month that will dislodge your marriage from the mire.

Strategy #1 Listening

Strategy #2 Ask God for a Word

Strategy #3 Fasting

When I was stuck in a toxic marriage, I became desperate for wisdom and direction because none of my own efforts seemed to dislodge our stuck marriage.


Strategy #2 for Dislodging a Marriage That’s Stuck

Do you feel trapped in a marriage that’s stuck? When movement seems painful or impossible, you need to ask God for a word.

Strategy #2 Ask God for a Word

When my marriage was stuck and divorce or death seemed preferable to my miserable marriage, I asked God for a word. And He didn’t go silent on me.


4 Strategies for Dislodging a ‘Stuck’ Marriage

stuck marriage

You know what it feels like when your marriage is stuck. But do you know how to dislodge a stuck marriage mired in boredom, exasperation, or even hopelessness?

When you feel trapped, you need a helping hand to pull you out. So this month I’m extending a helping hand by offering 4 strategies (over the course of 4 weeks) which will help dislodge your ‘stuck’ marriage so you can move to a new place.


How to Inspire Your Husband to Become Your Greatest Fan

What if you could inspire your husband to be your greatest fan? Jennelle did just that simply by saying ‘yes’ to joining a small group at her church.

Jennelle contacted me a few months ago and shared some of her experiences in that group studying The Beautiful Wife . During the study, a huge impact was made on her marriage, she developed relationships with life-long friends, and she made a fan of her husband.

Thank-you dear Jennelle for sharing your story with me and now others. You’ve not only inspired your husband to want to return the favor you’ve given him, but now you’re inspiring others and, as a result, they’re experiencing a transformation in their marriages. And that’s plain awesome!

Without further ado, Meet Jennelle Bergsma.

Can One Sentence Change Your Marriage and Family?

Can one moment, idea, or even a sentence really change your marriage and family? It did for Brittanie Wright!

I heard about Brittanie’s story from her friend Ashley. And it was so encouraging that I knew I wanted you to hear about it during the Marriage Breakthrough Summer Blockbuster Series.

So thank you dear Brittanie for your honesty in sharing what God revealed to you after reading one sentence. Your boldness to follow Him is inspirational!

Without further ado, meet Brittanie Wright!

Marriage Breakthrough Summer Blockbuster Series

Ashley had a marriage breakthrough. It was so significant that I asked her to tell you about it during my Summer Blockbuster Series.

When Ashley first told me her story, I was truly amazed by her honesty. Her honesty will thrill your heart as you begin to see just how powerfully God will work in and through you as you follow where He leads. Like Ashley did.

Thanks for letting me share your story dear Ashley!

Without further ado, meet Ashley Gibson!