How to Inspire Your Husband to Become Your Greatest Fan

What if you could inspire your husband to be your greatest fan? Jennelle did just that simply by saying ‘yes’ to joining a small group at her church.

Jennelle contacted me a few months ago and shared some of her experiences in that group studying The Beautiful Wife . During the study, a huge impact was made on her marriage, she developed relationships with life-long friends, and she made a fan of her husband.

Thank-you dear Jennelle for sharing your story with me and now others. You’ve not only inspired your husband to want to return the favor you’ve given him, but now you’re inspiring others and, as a result, they’re experiencing a transformation in their marriages. And that’s plain awesome!

Without further ado, Meet Jennelle Bergsma.

Can One Sentence Change Your Marriage and Family?

Can one moment, idea, or even a sentence really change your marriage and family? It did for Brittanie Wright!

I heard about Brittanie’s story from her friend Ashley. And it was so encouraging that I knew I wanted you to hear about it during the Marriage Breakthrough Summer Blockbuster Series.

So thank you dear Brittanie for your honesty in sharing what God revealed to you after reading one sentence. Your boldness to follow Him is inspirational!

Without further ado, meet Brittanie Wright!

Marriage Breakthrough Summer Blockbuster Series

Ashley had a marriage breakthrough. It was so significant that I asked her to tell you about it during my Summer Blockbuster Series.

When Ashley first told me her story, I was truly amazed by her honesty. Her honesty will thrill your heart as you begin to see just how powerfully God will work in and through you as you follow where He leads. Like Ashley did.

Thanks for letting me share your story dear Ashley!

Without further ado, meet Ashley Gibson!



Finding Your Way Back to a Covenant Marriage

covenant marriage

Have you lost your way in marriage? Could be you’ve lost your ‘why’ about the covenant marriage you signed up for.

The missing ‘why’ goes all the way back to the vows you spoke during your wedding. To the covenant vows you spoke aloud in a crowd of witnesses and agreed to when you said, ” I do”.

Just last week I listened to a message about covenant marriage which challenged a good friend of mine and inspired her to rethink her vows. I’m posting the message below because it was just


A Pressure-Releasing Message for Frustrated Wives

frustrated wives

Are you a frustrated wife? When Tom isn’t getting on board with my plans, I can easily become a frustrated wife.

We recently sold our farm and are actively pursuing our next home. A downsized version. We’ve found a couple of contenders and while Tom is leaning one way, I am leaning heavily in the other direction.

OK. I’m doing more than leaning because I want that adorable stone cottage!


When Worry Becomes a Marriage Wrecker

When Worry is a Marriage Wrecker

Are thoughts about your marriage riddled with worry? Entertaining worry for any length of time, it can easily become a marriage wrecker.

Early on in our marriage, Tom told me he was never going to change. Considering how selfish and controlling he was, (he easily admits this now), I worried I would never experience happiness married to him.

Focused on Tom’s worrisome words, I entertained worry as a welcomed guest in my thought life. Living with worry tainted my ability to believe in God’s wonder working power to heal my struggling marriage.

It’s no wonder God vehemently dislikes worry!


The Key to a Pivotal Family Summer

couple on phonesWould you like this to be a pivotal family Summer? A Summer of crucial importance to the development or success of your marriage and family?

Then I’ve got one word for you: LISTEN.

I predict that during the next several weeks your family will say the most amazing things that hold the potential to make 2016 a pivotal Summer. But will you hear them?

Only if you LISTEN.

It may sound simple, and it is. Yet it’s extremely difficult to succeed at listening in this day and age. I realized just how difficult a few weeks back.

Prompted by the Holy Spirit to ‘pray’ about a gathering with family members, I laid my phone aside and began talking to God. After a 60 second prayer, I reached for my phone to check Facebook.

Yet I heard the Spirit prompting me to continue praying. I obeyed for another minute or so. Again, I reached for my phone and set it back down again at the Holy Spirit’s urgency to keep praying. I prayed some more but picked up my phone again! Eventually I laughed at how silly I must look if someone were watching. That’s when I settled down and began praying on a deeper level for the family I love.

What I didn’t know was that the Holy Spirit’s insistence to pray prepared me to ‘hear’ something a family member said. The words I heard come out of my loved one’s mouth directly connected with something I’d prayed in that deeper level.

I was elated knowing God prepared me to hear what I needed to hear. Yet I very nearly missed the opportunity.

My sinful desire to prioritize personal entertainment via Facebook or Instagram almost won out over my sincere need for prayer. And if I hadn’t prayed, I’m not sure I would have heard the casual statement uttered by my loved one.

Pivotal Family Summer Challenge

Pray for your marriage and children more than you entertain yourself on social media.

How will you accomplish this?

  1. Choose a time or times each day to check social media or play online games. Limit yourself to these pre-determined moments.
  2. Pray for your family whenever you have the urge to check social media
  3. Allow yourself the luxury of lingering in prayer. Ask God to let you know when you’re finished.
  4. Record or write down the prayer topics you’ve prayed about.
  5. Watch expectantly for God’s movement
  6. Praise Him for all He is doing

Prayer for a Pivotal Family Summer

Dear Lord, Position me to be in the right place at the right time and in the right mind to ‘hear’ what’s going on in the deep places of my husband and children’s hearts this Summer. Help me to resist the lure of distractions that tempt me to entertain myself more than I pray, because in communication with you, you prepare me to ‘hear’ the wealth of data coming out of my family’s mouths. Give me wisdom to know how to respond to what I hear. I want this to be a pivotal family Summer when my relationships with my husband and children develop and improve. In Jesus’ name, AMEN.

5 Phrases That Can Help Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse

5 Phrases That Can Help Protect Your Child From Sexual AbuseOf late, I’ve become obsessed with HGTV’s Tiny House Hunting. So when a friend sent me an article written by a woman living in a New Zealand yurt, my interest was piqued. But the immediate connection I felt had nothing to do with the size of her home but rather the title of her article: 5 Phrases That Can Help Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse.

As you know, I’ve just completed 2 months of blogs, emails and a webinar developed to mentor you to better protect your children from the devastation of sexual harm. This article picks up where I left off and is soooo good, I had to pass it on. I encourage you to read it so you can begin practicing these phrases with your children during the coming Summer months.

Let’s do all we can to dismantle a culture of sexual abuse rather than add to it.

5 Phrases That Help Protect Your Child

5 Phrases That Can Help Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse

¿Puede usted detectar el abuso sexual?

¿Puede usted detectar el abuso sexual?

No me di cuenta que yo fui víctima de abuso sexual. Suena imposible de creer, ¿verdad? El hecho es que mi abusador no me violó entonces, en la creencia de que la definición de abuso sexual es la penetración sexual, yo no estaba al tanto de los daños causados en las profundidades de mi alma.

Por ignorancia, yo llevé el daño directo a mi edad adulta y a mi matrimonio. Nuestra vida sexual estaba plagada continuamente con la vergüenza y la culpa. Y el sexo fue lo que me recordó el problema.

Había una gran cantidad de problemas más profundos que proliferaron en las grietas y hendiduras oscuras de mi corazón. Los había cerrado a la luz de la curación del amor de Dios, porque me daba vergüenza hablar de estas cosas. Francamente, yo no confiaba en el poder de su bondad para transformar las piezas rotas de mi vida y crear algo hermoso. En cambio, me protegí fieramente ante cualquier mención o la memoria de las alteraciones que caracterizan la relación que tenía con mi abusador.


Are You Parenting From Shame Distorted Beliefs?

are you parenting your child from shame distorted beliefs

Without ever realizing it, I approached my children’s sexuality from shame distorted beliefs. I was embarrassed to call a penis a penis so we didn’t. We called it a ‘peter’ (my apologies to all the Peter’s out there!) And masturbation… I didn’t want to broach the topic, let alone say the word out loud.

Yet, if you want to create a safe home environment and prepare your kids for the sexual issues they’ll face, it’s important to begin the process of shedding personal shame.

None of us want to feel shame. Yet when you enter your story and see where shame has got you running for cover, you can choose to allow your Heavenly Father to begin the process of removing it and setting your free.