My husband and I rarely pray together.
My husband and I regularly pray together.
We don’t share many of the same interests.
We share many of the same interests.
Our sex life is dull, boring, routine, and bland.
Our sex life is exciting, invigorating, and fulfilling.
We rarely engage in spiritual activities together, such as church.
We regularly engage in spiritual activities together, such as church.
We rarely read the Bible and/or other devotionals together.
We regularly read the Bible and/or other devotionals together.
We don’t talk much about our fears, struggles, and worries.
We know all about the other’s fears, struggles, and worries.
We rarely have sex and/or we don’t agree to the frequency.
We have sex often, and the frequency meets both of our desires.
Our personalities are very different and don’t mesh well.
Our personalities completely complement each other.
Our relationship seems stuck or stagnant, with no progress or growth.
Our relationship is continually growing and moving forward.
We are not on the same page when it comes to finances.
We have a common agenda and ideas about our finances, and we work together to meet our financial needs and goals.
I often think about what it would be like to get out of this marriage or what it would be like to marry another.
I can’t think of myself with anyone but him.
We have no common vision, mission, and goals for our marriage and lives.
We have a common vision, mission, and goals for our marriage and lives.
I have to do all the work in our relationship.
We both put in much time and effort into our relationship, even if the work and roles are different.
I frequently compare my husband to other men.
I rarely, if ever, think about other men, especially in relation to my husband.
I don’t respect, admire, and appreciate my husband.
I respect, admire, and appreciate my husband very much.
My husband doesn’t appreciate what I do.
My husband frequently expresses his appreciation.
I don’t feel as if I know my husband well. He doesn’t talk about his dreams, interests, hopes, and goals.
I feel as if I know everything about my husband. He shares his innermost hopes and thoughts with me.
I don’t feel as if my husband knows me well. I don’t talk about my dreams, interests, hopes, and goals.
He knows everything about me. I share my innermost hopes and thoughts with him.
I feel unattractive to my husband.
I am attractive to my husband, because he lets me know through his words and actions.
We argue every day.
We rarely argue, and when we do we resolve our disagreement in healthy ways.
There has been a lack of forgiveness in some areas of our marriage.
There has been complete forgiveness for our failures.
We don’t have time to make our marriage a great one.
We make time for each other and our marriage.
I’m not happy with my role in the home and in our relationship.
I am happy about our roles and our individual responsibilities within our home and relationship.
I don’t have any outside interests or social life.
I have interests and friends outside my own family.
Outside of sex, my husband doesn’t show me physical affection.
Outside of sex, my husband shows me physical affection on a daily basis.
I feel as if we are not making a meaningful and significant impact in our world together.
I know that together we are making a meaningful and significant impact in our world together.
We avoid talking openly and honestly about what’s important or the pressing issues we face.
We openly and honestly talk about what’s important, as well as the pressing issues we face.
We never laugh together.
We often find humor and laugh together.
I often wonder, “Is this it? For my marriage? For my life?”
I am completely fulfilled with my marriage and life in general.
We never talk about God and His desire for our marriage and each other. God does not play a big part in our marriage.
We frequently talk about God and His desire for our marriage and each other. God is a big part of our marriage.