Thankfully, God has given us strategies in His word that have the power to dislodge a marriage suffering from unmet expectations. I’ve uncovered 3 so far in my August blog series.
Today’s strategy is one of my favorites! In fact, this strategy has helped haul my marriage up and outta the mud several times over the past 30 years.
Strategy #4 Mentoring Helps You Navigate Unmet Expectations
Mentoring is a God-given strategy for dealing with unmet expectations. Having someone walk alongside you to help put your life and marriage into perspective is invaluable and fun!
I’m going to draw from a moving illustration to make my point. As many of you know, Tom and I are in the middle of a BIG move from our farm after having lived here for 23 years.
When we first found the home we bought, I was giddy with excitement because it was a beauty from the outside and sat up on a bluff overlooking a river. I couldn’t wait to crack open the front door.
Once inside, my excitement evaporated. The interior of the house disappointed me tremendously! It wasn’t what I expected. In fact, I called it a ‘stupid’ house. Nothing made sense to me.
Accompanied by two women passionate about mid-century architecture (our home was built in 1960), they began to help me make sense of what I couldn’t understand alone. They pointed out the intelligence of the design, the beauty of the materials used. and the amazing potential to be unearthed.
I left with greater understanding about the home we bought. All of a sudden, the pieces began falling into place and it didn’t seem ‘stupid’ anymore.
In much the same way, mentors can help you make sense of your confusion. They can point out the intelligent design of how you fit with your husband, the beautiful qualities produced when you cooperate with God’s plan for your marriage, and the amazing potential of a marriage that can weather the storms life spits at you.
What if you had greater understanding about your husband? How might that change the climate of your marriage? What if that understanding could help dislodge your ‘stuckness’.
I want to encourage you to consider actively pursuing a mentor within the next month. My life and marriage experience greater joy and fulfillment because of the mentors who walk alongside me.
If you’d like to learn more about mentoring, click here to watch a video where I explain what mentoring is and how you can find a mentor.
And if you’d like me to be your mentor, consider the Individual Mentoring I offer. I believe I can help you dislodge a ‘stuck’ marriage!
our new home exterior unmet interior expectations