When you’re facing marriage challenges, you’re looking for ideas and strategies that lead to a place of re-connection with your spouse. So you strap on your hiking boots and begin the climb with anticipation of a favorable outcome.
Yet many times these strategies fail to produce the results you’d hoped for. After laboring upward for days, weeks, or months all you see is barren wilderness in all directions.
The disappointment from dashed hopes and unmet expectations after such a climb often stimulates an internal monologue that goes something like this:
- I must have done something wrong
- Maybe I didn’t hear God right
- This is just too hard!
- These things never work for me
- My husband will never change!
I regularly hear these responses from the women I meet and mentor who are fighting for a stronger, healthier marriage. But please consider the following shift to your paradigm:
More than likely, you’ll encounter great resistance as you battle for greater joy and fulfillment in marriage.
So what do you do when biblical marriage strategies fail?
Consider the Israelite’s who had to resist and persist for 7 years in order to claim their Promised Land. God promised the Jewish people a homeland. But He also said they’d need to fight for it! He assured them He would give them the victory if they stayed connected to Him and followed His commands.
And so it is with you.
God has given you promises in His Word. Don’t be deceived that just because you encounter resistance, indifference or a battle that lasts longer than you think it should that you’ve missed God or that He’s abandoned you!
Remember that if you resist, the Devil will flee from you (James 4:7). If you persist in doing the good and righteous things He’s asked you to do or brought to your attention, you will reap a great harvest! (Galatians 6:9). Your harvest will consist of fruits like peace, patience, love and joy!
If you remain connected to Him, (think John 15’s vine and branches analogy) you’ll hear His voice cheering you on and leading you forward. And rest assured, He’ll let you know if or when it’s time to course-adjust.
He won’t leave you hanging. He never abandons those who rely on Him.
“As I was with Moses, so shall I be with you. I will not weaken my grasp on you nor will I abandon you. Just be strong and very courageous to observe and do in accordance with all the Torah that Moses my servant has commanded you. Therefore, do not stray right or left in order that you will succeed in wherever you go.”
He knows the best pathway for your life. He’ll advise you and watch over you until you reach a destination that will take your breath away!